Hey. Do you think it’s possible for someone to have something to say every day?
Do you say something every day?
Do you talk to at least one person every day? (Even if that person is yourself?)
Then you’re probably thinking and processing information every day.
Granted, posting a blog is like talking to yourself, because no one is there… yet. And you have no idea if anyone will even see it. So yeah, it’s weird.
But it’s a recording of your thoughts.
And you think every day. I promise.
(I didn’t even know what I was going to say in here, but when I started writing, it got me thinking. Writing can do that. Try it out.)
It’s not easy.
Keeping a streak.
I missed a day again.
What disturbs me the most is the reason: it totally slipped my mind.
How can something that you’ve been doing every day for months just completely not cross your mind?
Well, I think I know. There were some unique circumstances. And it involved me being completely obsessed with trying to accomplish a certain task. So, most of the afternoon and evening was consumed.
It might have crossed my mind earlier in the day, but I put it off. And that’s the dangerous part. Right at that moment I should have done something significant to make sure I would do it later. Like put a big note somewhere where I couldn’t miss it.
But no biggie. Who cares really? You wouldn’t have even noticed if I didn’t say anything.
I’m trying to do something here.
I’m trying to set up a new habit that is consistent. And even though I’m mostly successful (missing one day a month is not bad) I need to have a better system.
So, I’m going to figure something out.
(You don’t have to worry about it.)
Just stay tuned.
Or not 🙂
Everyone has ideas.
And they want others to believe in them.
In fact, they’d like everyone to believe in them. Or, at least as many people as possible.
But that takes work.
And there’s a process that needs to occur before a bunch of people will believe in your idea.
It has been studied for years, and it has been scientifically mapped out. It is called the Diffusion of Innovation or Rogers Adoption Curve.
And if you want to take an idea to the masses, you have to follow the process.
You must first start with finding the innovators and early adopters. Then, only after your idea has matured enough to gain favor with the early majority, then the late majority, will you have reached most everyone.
Seth Godin explains the process very well here:
And that was in 2015, so it’s not a new idea.
In fact, Rogers first introduced it in his book in 1962. And it has still held true today.
Hmm… maybe some things don’t change 🙂
It’s time to step up.
It’s a week after the start of the year, when all the fanfare is starting to die down. You might have already had some failures in your ‘new routine’ or whatever big plans you had. And people are already starting to complain that 2021 isn’t any better than 2020.
So now is when things really need to start happening. And when I say ‘things happening’ I mean you (and me) making them happen.
What are the little steps you can do to move in the right direction?
And it’s all little steps.
Setting the alarm clock differently, putting on your workout shoes, opening that journal and grabbing a pen, sending an email, making a phone call, signing up for that program, or whatever you have to do. It’s a little thing that starts the ball rolling.
The thing I’ve learned the last couple of days is that life is full of assumptions.
You just never know what will happen.
Here’s what happened to me. A couple of times this week I needed to say certain things to someone that were very difficult for me. I have a low threshold for conflict (and any type of pain for that matter.) What I needed to say I thought might have caused a conflict or caused the other person to not like me very much. And I was very uneasy.
But I moved past my fear and said them anyway.
It took a lot of courage.
And you know what happened? They didn’t mind. There was no conflict. In fact it was just the opposite. It was a beautiful conversation. Both times. And this was with two different people.
It gave me confidence that I could look fear in the face and say, ‘You’re false!’
That’s what fear stands for, you know: False Evidence Appearing Real (F.E.A.R.) 🙂
No matter how strong we feel it, we must believe that there’s a possibility that whatever bad thing we think might happen, won’t happen. We must question our assumptions.
And it’s all assumptions. We absolutely don’t know the future.
The feeling of fear is real, but it could be based on a false assumption. So we need courage to prove it wrong.
Step aside fear. I’m moving forward.
Well, it’s the 4th, and a Monday, so I’m just guessing it’s most people’s Day 1 for the new year.
And that’s just fine.
You know, every day can be a Day 1. You can start new, fresh, and perfect every day. You choose.
That doesn’t mean you should keep messing up every day, it just means you can get back up as fast as you fall down. So, whatever happens, however you feel about yourself because of what you have or haven’t done, you can always be perfect and start over on Day 1.
And that’s today.
So let’s get started.
It’s Day 1. What is your perfect day going to be like?
Make it so.
Have you started yet?
Your new workout routine, diet, or habits?
Or are you going to wait until Monday?
Monday is always a good day to start. We’re still kind of in holiday mode, right?
But are you just procrastinating?
Why didn’t you start last week? Or when you actually thought it was a good idea. Dates shouldn’t matter so much. But the one we had yesterday sure seems to attract a lot of attention.
But if the calendar motivates you to make a positive change, then that’s good. Use whatever tactics possible. Motivation is a slippery thing.
Getting into new habits requires some smart effort. You need some strategy and an approach that is different than what you think should work.
One of the best books on habits that I’ve read lately (or listened to) is Atomic Habits by James Clear. I highly recommend learning what James learned from his experience recovering from a brain injury and his relentless study of habits and change. It’s a good book, with inspiring stories and tactical strategies.
When you learn stuff, you’re smarter. You’ll know how things work.
And there are always things working that you don’t know about.
Learning spawns change.
Let’s try this again.
Spinning around the sun.
That’s what we’re celebrating. Someone at some time decided that starting from now, let’s keep track of each rotation of the earth on its axis and its rotation around the sun. And we’ll call it January 1st.
So, we made it around again, and we’re going to try to make it around another time.
Okay, so maybe it didn’t happen exactly like that, and I’m sure I could find out how it did happen by looking it up in Wikipedia, but that’s not the point.
The point is that sometimes it’s good or interesting to look at our situation from a different perspective, or higher level. We should ask, ‘why’ more often. Or, what does this mean?
This last year, I think it’s kind of funny that people are grouping all the horrible things that happened into the arbitrary category of the year 2020. And now that we’re in 2021, things will be different. (Or we hope they will.)
But we’re moving in a circle. It’s one continuous round. So things will happen as they happen based on choices and circumstances that occur. We will just categorize them into years because that’s how our finite mind can keep track of things linearly.
I’m going to try and get better.
Better at improving my choices and therefore my situation and happiness.
Because I believe that can happen regardless of what is happening externally around me.
The question I ask myself a lot during vacation or holidays is probably pretty normal for a lot of people. But if you think about it a little more deeply, with the kind of deep questioning and meaning that I mentioned earlier, it is the question of eternity that will generate your own improvement and determine the outcome of your entire life:
“What should I do next?”
Think about it.
Let’s all try to have good answers so we can have a happy new year.